7 Big Mistakes
Wednesday, April 2nd, 2008I started shooting Season 6 yesterday. We’re working with a lovely couple… Amy and Paul… and I have high hopes for success.
I’ve got ANOTHER wicked cold and spent most of the day in a snoot-filled haze. I managed to:
a) misplace my Visa card,
b) try to walk out of the drugstore without signing my chit
c) leave set with PJ’s shoes instead of mine.
I called and put a hold on my Visa card, and found it this morning in my car. I was recognized trying to steal from the drugstore by a show fan who promised not to tell. And PJ texted me last night to say I owe her $20 because she couldn’t go on her date wearing rain boots. Hmmm. It’s her own fault, really. She liked my shoes so much, she went out an bought an almost identical pair, and that’s why, in my haze, I picked up her shoes. I take her copying me as a huge complement, actually, since she’s very cool and the fact that she wanted my shoes, well, that says it all, eh?
Lives are funny things. Everyone has a different set of priorities, a different set of needs. And we all have a way of muddling through to get what we want. We also have a tendency to make the same mistakes over and over and over.
PJ’s thing is shoes. She’s got a HUGE shoe fettish. I love books. I spend gobs of money on books, both recorded and the printed versions. For other people it’s technology, clothes, home furnishings, pets. As many things as you can name, people can purchase to excess.
I don’t have a problem with people blowing a whack of cash on whatever their whim is, providing they can afford it. It’s the people who just can’t make ends meet, who refuse to adjust their spending that I scratch my head at.
One of the most interesting things about doing the show is being able to take a look into people’s lives, behaviour and justifications. Each couple has their own story, but over dozens and dozens of shows, I’m seeing some common mistakes. Are you making any of these?
1. Carrying a balance on credit cards. Sadly, many people don’t even know how much they owe. And they don’t know what their interest rate is. John Wayne said, “Life is hard. Life is harder for stupid people.” Hmmm.
2. Letting their expenses get out of control. I routinely cut my couples’ variable expenses by 60%, 70%, 80% and they do it. The live on 20% of what they were spending before. How is that even possible? When I ask, they tell me, “We’re paying attention.” What a concept!
3. Taking payday loans. What the hell are ya thinking? If you can’t afford to live on what you’re making now, how are you going to make it through next week when you have to repay the loan, plus the interest (upwards of 700%, when you include the fees). If you need money that badly, sell something or get another job.
4. Having no emergency fund. You know where this leads. The first time something breaks, it’s back to the credit card or line of credit. If you don’t have a financial safety net, you will fall and break your neck. It’s only a matter of time.
5. Buying a house that’s too expensive. No money down, amortize forever has led people to believe they can afford houses that are more expensive than they can actually manage. If you had to save 20% of a $400,000 house - that $80,000 - you might think twice about buying such an expensive house. I know houses have gone through the roof, but that’s no excuse for strapping your cash flow to the point where you’re living on the edge all the time. That’s a sure way to destroy your relationship.
6. Paying only the minimum amount on debt. So you really don’t want to be out of debt then, right? And you don’t much care how much it costs you. So quit your whining.
7. Using debt to repay debt. That’s balance transfers, cash advances on credit cards to make minimum payments, or using your line of credit to pay your minimum on your credit card. This used to be illegal, but in the name of marketing and selling more credit, the balance transfer (using credit to pay credit) was created and now the line is so blurred that people think it’s fine. It’s not. And it’s going to catch up with you eventually.